When You Might Want to Reconsider Pursuing CA (Part 2) (Opinion)
This post is a continuation of my previous one on this topic, so I recommend reading that first. You can find it here: Link.
As a CA student who struggled through four attempts at the Intermediate level, I genuinely believe that CA is an excellent path for commerce students who are feeling lost in life. However, it requires a significant amount of effort, and ultimately, the responsibility for that effort rests with you.
That said, life often presents us with various challenges that impact our overall happiness and satisfaction. In my case, I faced a toxic family environment. My mother viewed me as a project that continually needed improvement, and I was often criticized and nagged. She believed I should always be studying or helping around the house, leaving little room for relaxation—though I did try to take breaks, I was frequently chastised for them.
My father, on the other hand, would manipulate the situation, further alienating me from my mother. These dynamics greatly affected my well-being and contributed to my setbacks. I believe that had my parents been more supportive and understanding, my efforts would have been more productive.
I appreciate all the resources they provided me, but their parenting approach wasn’t conducive to my success. My mother’s behavior stemmed from her own struggles in a difficult marriage; a decision to stay despite having options led her to project her frustrations onto me.
I don’t claim to be perfect myself, but I know that a more nurturing environment could have fostered my growth.
The takeaway from my experience is this: If you’re struggling with personal happiness or constantly feeling anxious at home, pursuing CA might not be the best choice for you right now. The demands of the program can be overwhelming, especially if you’re already dealing with personal turmoil.
It may be wiser to first focus on achieving personal peace and stability. Consider pursuing an easier degree or getting a job to build your independence before diving into a challenging program like CA. Otherwise, it could become a source of significant mental strain.
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Thank you for sharing your story and perspective on the challenges of pursuing the CA qualification, especially under tough personal circumstances. It’s a reminder that while academic and professional pursuits can be fulfilling, they require a stable and supportive environment to thrive.
You are absolutely right in highlighting the importance of mental peace and personal well-being before taking on a demanding course like CA. The intensity of study and preparation can be overwhelming, and if external pressures exacerbate that stress—like a toxic family environment—it can hinder progress and motivation.
Taking the time to build personal resilience and finding a supportive community, whether that involves pursuing easier studies or gaining work experience, can make a significant difference. It’s commendable that you’re reflecting on your experiences and recognizing what you need for your growth.
Everyone’s journey is unique, and sometimes stepping back to prioritize mental health and personal satisfaction can lead to greater success later on. Wishing you all the best as you navigate your path forward, whether it includes CA or not. Your insights could be invaluable to others who find themselves in similar situations.