Feeling Defeated
Hi everyone, I’m reaching out from Canada with a heavy heart. This post is tough for me because I’m navigating a whirlwind of emotions, and everything is still so fresh. I’ve spent about a year in various public Accounting positions, only to be let go each time without any explanation. I finally transitioned to a role as a junior financial analyst, which I was genuinely enjoying. Just one week shy of my one-year mark, I faced yet another unexpected layoff.
I can’t help but feel like I might be lacking in some way, or maybe my anxiety is keeping me from stepping into leadership roles. At this point, I’m feeling truly lost. I’ve invested four years in obtaining my Accounting degree and completed the CPA program—right through to the CFE—getting nearly all the way to achieving my designation. Now I’m left wondering if I’m just not suited for this career path.
I’d appreciate any job recommendations for someone who enjoys hard work but prefers less social interaction, as social anxiety is something I struggle with. Alternatively, should I consider moving on to other career options altogether? Each layoff takes a toll on my mental health. With past experiences of PTSD, starting a new position often feels like I’m tiptoeing around, just waiting for the next setback. My self-esteem has taken a serious hit, and each time this cycle repeats, it leaves me feeling defeated and discouraged. I’m struggling to see any silver lining in all of this. Am I the problem, or should I just keep trying? Thank you for listening.
One response
I’m really sorry to hear that you’re feeling this way. It’s completely understandable to feel defeated after facing repeated challenges in your career, especially when you’ve worked so hard to build a foundation. First, I want to emphasize that being let go from a job does not reflect your worth or abilities. Many people face setbacks in their careers for reasons beyond their control, and it’s important to remember that these experiences don’t define you.
Your accomplishments, like your degree and progress in the CPA program, show that you are capable and resilient. It’s okay to take a moment to acknowledge your feelings and the impact this has had on your mental health. You’re not alone in feeling anxious about job stability—many people experience anxiety related to their careers, especially after difficult experiences.
Finding a role that aligns with your skills while also accommodating your needs can be challenging but is definitely possible. Consider exploring positions in finance or Accounting that are more analytical and less focused on teamwork or social interaction, such as data analysis, budgeting, or even remote or freelance work. Many organizations value hard work and can provide a supportive environment that minimizes external pressures.
Before making any drastic decisions, it might be helpful to reach out to a career counselor or therapist who can help you work through your feelings and guide you in finding a path that suits your needs. They can assist in rebuilding your confidence and finding strategies to manage anxiety.
Remember, taking a break or reassessing your career path doesn’t mean giving up; it’s just a step towards finding a better fit for your skills and mental well-being. You deserve to work in an environment where you feel valued and secure. Please be kind to yourself during this process. You are not the problem; the right opportunity just hasn’t come along yet. Keep seeking support and exploring paths that work for you.